My three year old has a new thing he likes to do with me. Up until now his favorite thing was to wrestle or play fight. Now he is getting more in depth with our playtime. He is now really into Indiana Jones. He has a hat like Indy, a play whip, and wears his pajama top unbuttoned to give the appearance of a ripped shirt like Dr. Jones. I of course am one of the bad guys usually. Sometimes he wants me to be the little boy Short Round who is Indy’s partner in Temple of Doom movie. He usually makes me walk on my knees in that instance.
We have little adventures all over our house. Looking for buried treasures, fighting bad guys, and climbing mountains. However, when you play with Andy, you really don’t get to have free will. Let me explain. Andy has how things are suppose to play our in our adventures already planned out. He goes by the movie sometimes. For example, the other night we were looking for The Lost Ark. We searched high and low. Finally, I said, “Indy I found the ark!” as I walked into our closet pretending it was a cave. And he got furious. “Daddy, you are not supposed to say that yet!” How was I to know? I also have to wear what he wants me to and say what he thinks my character should be saying. I don’t have much of a choice in the matter. His blueprints are laid out. And they are not to be varied from.
We all have blueprints of how our lives should go in our minds. We get married, have a few kids, and live happily ever after. The only bumps in the road we for see are little squabbles in marriage, kids with broken bones, or job changes. But our lives never go according to our plans. Things happen. Unemployment. Adultery. Cancer. Drug abuse. Alcoholism. Death. We never think anything bad will happen to us. Its only others, we don’t think our families could ever fall prey to any of these hardships. But we live in a fallen world. And when things don’t go according to the plan of our original blueprints, it can be devastating.
But think back to the birth of Christ. No…go back further. Think about when Mary was approached by the angel telling her that she would become pregnant while still being a virgin and give birth to the son of God. Most likely she was in her teens. She was not married, but engaged to be married to Joseph. This is not how she had planned things. This was surly not the blueprint she drew for her life. Imagine having to tell your parents that you were visited by an angel and pregnant with the son of God. Also having to tell the man you were to marry that you were pregnant but you had not been unfaithful.
And this was surly not the blueprint Joseph had for his life. Think about what he must have been thinking initially. He didn’t believe her. By law back then, for being found unfaithful Mary could have been put to death. But Joseph did have mercy. In Deuteronomy Verse 19 it states “Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.ref Joseph had planned on divorcing her. His world was shattered for sure. The dreams of a family and smooth life with Mary were at the moment gone. His emotions must have been all over the place. Heartbreak. Disbelief. Anger. Love. Confusion. Read on to verse 20 of Deuteronomy. God visits Joseph in a dream and says to him, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.ref God was telling Joseph that it was all part of the plan.
Life doesn’t always turn out like we planned. Our blueprints are not always Gods blueprints. Joseph and Mary went through a hard time I’m sure. Unbelieving relatives and friends causing them shame must have been so hard. But they pressed on. And they trusted in the new blueprint God had given them. After enduring their trial, the savior of the world was born.
Have your blueprints for life been altered? I read a story about a man who had a goal to swim from the shores of San Francisco to the legendary prison Alcatraz. He had a boat follow him just to be on the safe side. He started swimming strong but he soon began to tire and a terrible fog set in. He lost sight of his goal and in his frustration, hopped in the boat and gave up. When the fog cleared, he saw that he was only about fifty yards or so from his goal. He could have made it. His blueprint in his mind called for a sunny day and an easy swim. But when things changed he abandoned his goal. He gave up.
Our goal as Christians should be to persevere…to push on even when things don’t go our way. In what area of your life have your blueprints changed on you? Have circumstances in your marriage left you hurt and confused? Has your job situation hit rock bottom? Are you or a loved one battling an addiction that seems to be all consuming? If so, stop and listen as Jesus says to you, “Don’t give up yet. It’s all part of my plan.” For the marriage on the rock, or the employee who just lost his job and house, God allows hardships and changes in our lives to teach us, and for us to grow from. And most importantly, to give us a testimony to reach others.
Jon and Sylvia had been married seven years and it seemed more like thirty. They had started off strong and in love, but things changed. Jon had begun to abuse alcohol and was emotionally abusive to his wife. They had some really hard years and eventually went to marriage counseling at their church. They were counseled by an older married couple, Rick and Martha Swinton. Jon and Sylvia through the sessions with this couple saw how much they loved each other and both came to a renewed relationship with Jesus from seeing the example of this older couple.
Months later Jon thanked Rick for being such a mentor and helping him straighten out his marriage. “I just wish we had the kind of love I see that you and Martha have had all along.” Said Jon. Rick sat Jon down and told him that their younger years were rough. Jon came to find out that Rick and Martha’s marriage had been through adultery, and almost ended in divorce. But they didn’t give up, and Jesus changed everything. Jesus used their tragedy to give new life to their marriage. Rick and Martha told Jon that they wouldn’t change a thing about their life, because if it wasn’t for the hard times, they would have never experienced the strong love they have today. And they would have never really known Jesus.
When the blueprint of our lives changes, God’s glory is revealed. If things are not going according to your plans right now, surrender to Jesus and pray. When Jesus was in the Garden praying hours before his crucifixion, he prayed to God that if there was any other way, to let this cup pass from him. But Jesus then asked that Gods will be done. “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” Luke 22:42. In the midst of the fog in your life, pray that God’s will be done, and keep swimming. Never give up, because victory and a life much sweeter than you ever thought possible might be closer than you think.